Why Your Opposite Feels Like Home (and Hell)

People love to say "opposites attract" like it's a cute relationship trope - some quirky cosmic joke where two mismatched humans magically fit together.

But energetically??? It's much deeper!! It's magnetism - physics wrapped in emotion.

Opposites attract for the same reason a plus (+) and minus(-) pull toward each other:

Each side carries something the other does not. 

The pull is real. I mean, the attraction is not random. 

Here are just a few examples of how opposite attractions show up in everyday ways (and these opposites don't attract because they complete each other - they attract because each side carries a frequency that the other doesn't):

• one likes to plan the other likes to wing it
• one talks everything out the other needs quiet to think
• one moves fast the other moves slow
• one brings the fire the other brings the calm
• one grew up taking care of everyone the other grew up being taken care of
• one avoids conflict the other says exactly what they feel

Different energies. Different charges. Same magnetism. But here's the thing:

The bond only forms if both sides have surrendered to the pull. 

I'm talking about the mutual surrender of resistance. 

Because polarity without surrendering to the resistance creates instability. 

When two people hold tightly to their own poles, the energy can't neutralize. There's no center point. There's no resting place for the connection to land. 

As long as both sides grip their charge, the polarity stays active and the relationship stays unstable. 

Think of magnets:

They don't click together because one of them works harder. They click when both allow the pull to happen. 

Connection happens in the middle - where both people soften just enough to meet.

So, in a nutshell - 

Opposites attract, yes. 

But they only bond when both sides soften enough to meet in the middle. 

That's Soft Armor.